~first~ and ~second~, as a rule, when the 4 and 1 combination is found in this part of the chart, it is usually not very compatible. Although both cycles represent a strong drive and the need to put forth effort, they express it quite differently. 

~second~ is motivated in large part by enthusiasm, dreams, hope, and a can-do attitude. This is a time of opportunity for them, and they should take advantage of this period to focus on their goals. 

~first~, your drive is born more from frustration and the need to break free from a shell that has felt restrictive for some time. (This frustration could increase before things change.) Your challenge is to keep from directing it toward your loved ones. The 4 cycle is rarely an easy one, but it invariably brings progress and a breakthrough of some kind. Try to keep that in mind as you move through this demanding period. 

The two of you are experiencing very different cycle challenges. ~second~ will have to be sensitive to your need to stay focused on your tasks, and you will have to recognize their need to move boldly ahead.