~first~ and ~second~, this part of the chart reveals important differences you will need to address to create a satisfying, long-lasting relationship. Your challenges stem from the difficulty the 4 and 9 have seeing eye-to-eye. The problem is not so much that they are incompatible, they simply do not understand each other.

As you continue reading this section keep in mind this is only one aspect of the chart; you are complex individuals with many additional influences. It is possible that other numbers will mitigate the potential lack of connection often experienced in your combination, and this will not become an issue. However, even with that consideration, you likely have many challenges ahead.

Have you ever met someone you had an immediate dislike for, or perhaps just experienced an inability to relate to on almost any level? No two numbers generate that kind of inexplicable, uncomfortable vibration as clearly as the 4 and the 9. Fortunately, if you are currently in a successful relationship (and not in the early stages of seeing how you feel about someone) you most likely carry other numbers in your chart that are compatible to such an extent that they override this concern. 

~first~ and ~second~, the success of your relationship lies in large part on your willingness to give each other a great deal of freedom. Think of this relationship as two strangers who love each other. Some relationships require deep, intimate sharing of ideas, even secrets and inner experiences. This would most likely not only be uncomfortable for you, but it may not be possible. You carry vastly different attitudes and approaches to life. Oddly, in your relationship the motto should probably be the less I know the better. The less you try to "understand" your partner, the more you will be able to allow love to meld your hearts. Openness, acceptance, and respect are key.

~first~, you will need to accept ~second~'s need to devote time and attention to people and projects you do not relate to or are not passionate about. ~second~ (the 9) will need to compromise as well. As idealistic as ~second~ is, they can sometimes be self-righteous and annoyingly opinionated - and likely irritated by ~first~'s practical nature. You will never change your partner. Even with the best intentions, asking them to see things from your perspective will be counterproductive and often create more distance, confusion, and alienation.

There is hope, however, and the potential for a successful, loving relationship if you can accept the fact that you will frequently take different paths. Understand there will most likely always be some distance between you. But if there is, remember that a little separation is the only thing that makes it possible for you to live in harmony. Eliminate the distance and the harmony will no longer exist. 