~first~ and ~second~, as a rule, when the 1 and 4 combination is found in this part of the chart, it is usually not very compatible. Although both cycles represent a strong drive and the need to put forth effort, they express it quite differently. 

~first~, you are motivated in large part by enthusiasm, dreams, hope, and a can-do attitude. This is a time of opportunity for you. Take advantage of this period to focus on your goals. 

~second~'s drive is born more from frustration and the need to break free from a shell that has felt restrictive for some time. (This frustration could increase before things change.) Their challenge will be to keep from directing it toward you and other loved ones. The 4 cycle is rarely an easy one, but on the upside, it invariably brings progress and a breakthrough of some kind. You should both try to keep that in mind as ~second~ moves through this demanding period. 

The two of you are experiencing vastly different cycle challenges. ~first~, you will have to be sensitive to ~second~'s need to stay focused on their tasks, and ~second~ will have to recognize your need to move boldly ahead.