~first~ and ~second~, the 4 and the 9 are not the most compatible cycles, often causing emotional turmoil in a relationship. 

This is due, in part, to ~second~ being at the end of a cycle which can make emotions unpredictable. Their 9 will ask them to let go of the old and prepare for the new, which invariably evokes powerful feelings. Your 4, on the other hand, will focus on practical matters that may leave little room for empathy. You will be concerned with career, projects, details, effort, discipline, and tangible progress. 

~second~ needs understanding and a sense that you share common goals. You, ~first~, will probably wish they would get on with the more practical and immediate business at hand.

It is important for both of you to recognize you are going through vastly distinct stages. During this cycle, the best thing for your relationship is to stay as close to each other as possible. ~first~, make the effort to focus more on ~second~ and less on yourself and get away from your daily routines to do things you enjoy together.