~first~ and ~second~, the 4 and the 9 are not the most compatible cycles, often causing emotional turmoil in a relationship. ~first~, this is due, in part, to you being at the end of a cycle which can make emotions unpredictable. Your 9-cycle will ask you to let go of the old and prepare for the new, which invariably evokes powerful feelings. 

~second~'s 4, on the other hand, will focus on practical matters that may leave little room for empathy. they will be concerned with career, projects, taking care of details, effort, discipline, and tangible progress. You will need understanding and a sense that your partner shares common goals, while ~second~ will probably wish you would get on with the more practical and immediate business at hand.

It is important for both of you to recognize you are going through very different stages. During this cycle, the best thing for your relationship is to stay as close to each other as possible. Make the effort to focus more on your partner and less on yourself and get away from your daily routines to do things you enjoy together.