~first~ and ~second~, you make up a challenging and rare combination. Although most couples continue to look for things they have in common, in your case this might not always translate into an advantage. Yours is a relationship of extremes, with powerful feelings and sometimes almost uncontrollable urges to confront each other. 

You are both headstrong, competitive people who do not like to play second fiddle. You are unlikely to surrender your accustomed place at the top even to someone to whom you are attracted. When both people have a 1 in this area of the chart, there may not be much room left for attraction. Your competitive natures are likely to interfere with a giving, cooperative relationship. Your reading suggests you both feel the need to be "king of the mountain" and like two bulls, will butt heads to gain the upper hand.

However, when two people with dynamic drives can set aside their competitive natures (due to a mutually powerful attraction) the relationship can be promising and exciting. 

With this combination it is important to look for compatible aspects in your charts to understand where complementary traits can positively support your relationship. 

If your relationship has existed for some time, you have obviously found ways to get around the challenges of your two equally strong and individualistic personalities. If the relationship is relatively new, you will both need to accept taking second place (occasionally) and become practiced in humility and sensitivity.

Try to keep verbal arguments from escalating. Both of you are capable of confrontation when the need arises, and you carry the potential for aggression. Work on taking a breath, stepping back, and thinking twice before saying something you might later regret.