Where ~first~ is open and easygoing in matters of the heart, ~second~ is more careful and perhaps somewhat distant. It is likely they recognize the need to maintain a safe distance has been a factor in causing past relationships to end. It is not easy for ~second~ to be deeply involved in a relationship, or to act uninhibitedly. 

~first~ is just the opposite; they find it natural to feel safe and probably responds easily without having to weigh every potential consequence. ~second~ it is important to note that there is no shortage of love or caring in your nature; you are self-sacrificing and generous to a fault. The difficulty arises only when relationships become more intimate, closer to the "inner" you. If there is a little distance, you feel safe. ~first~ you are quite different. You will invite ~second~ to share even your deepest feelings without hesitation. But if they back up you carry the potential to respond with confusion, jealousy, or resentment.

Generally, the 2 and 9 do not get along easily. Although both are caring, loving numbers, the idealistic 9 (~second~) prefers to focus on the world at large, to strangers and issues concerning humanity. The 2 (~first~) is more emotionally involved and focuses on forming a close, cooperative relationship with one person. Interestingly, the 2 and the 9 comfortably form powerful alliances in other circumstances, particularly business. In combination they can negotiate with and influence just about anyone. 

Your relationship issues can be countered, with effort. If it is to grow and endure, ~second~ will need to let go a little, relax the constant vigil, and become more responsive to the moment. ~first~ will need to recognize this does not come easily to their partner. Try to understand that ~second~'s need for distance does not mean their love is less real, or not as strong as yours. 

Being sensitive to and accepting of your differences can help you build a rewarding relationship - a relationship that can also be quite prosperous, especially in the business world, if you combine your respective strengths. 