~first~ and ~second~, during this period your cycles will be pushing you in opposite directions. Your numbers suggest this is probably often the case in your relationship, but it doesn"™t necessarily reflect incompatibility. 

For ~second~, this is a time to relax and smell the roses, while you need to stay focused and maintain a high level of effort. It is important that you don't try to change each other's inclination to follow the demands of your individual cycles. You need to accept that ~second~ is not as disciplined and ambitious as usual, and ~second~ should guard against trying to talk you into taking it easy.

Contrary to what one might expect, as a rule cycles with a gap of one (like your 3 and 4) are not usually incompatible even though they move in different directions. In fact, they often complement one another. Their differences normally cause stress only if couples try too hard to influence each other. ~second~ should be allowed to back off a little from the daily grind, and you will need support and encouragement during what could be a rather demanding cycle.